tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post6319538294063519935..comments2023-07-17T23:10:02.228+10:00Comments on Discombobula: In Praise of ComfortSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-14628967152649286442014-05-19T11:57:36.521+10:002014-05-19T11:57:36.521+10:00Junk DNA. Ha, I like that. And yes. I was seriousl...Junk DNA. Ha, I like that. And yes. I was seriously emotional as an adolescent and was constantly chastised or made fun of for it. Family, friends, teachers...and being an introvert, of course, I hated the attention drawn to me, so I adapted. Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01067954787472463337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-74266339725730751192014-05-19T09:46:31.866+10:002014-05-19T09:46:31.866+10:00Oh, man, I can so relate to this, Erin. Sometimes...Oh, man, I can so relate to this, Erin. Sometimes I'm too disordered to be able to hide behind stoicism and wow, how embarrassing. I find it really frustrating the way people are so dismissive of emotions. It's like they're considered the junk DNA of the body when in actuality they're rather sophisticated. It's just that we have to learn how to read them. And of course, as is so common to our ridiculous species, what we don't understand we fear and what we fear we ridicule. <br /><br />It's not okay to be emotional, is it? You can see the contempt in people's eyes if you do manage to let anything slip out the sides. It's like you're betraying the cause by letting it slip that we all have them. Geez, what a mess.<br /><br />I think being in such an unsafe environment as that, if you can be stoic you will. You need to protect your soft centres from a world that doesn't seem to value them very much. It's good in that way, a good skill - and you will put it to good use in your career, I'm sure.<br /><br />I guess there's a balance, right? Letting them flow through so they're gone, rather than stuffing them away where they bloat and fester :)Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-28225746917870676492014-05-18T15:16:51.326+10:002014-05-18T15:16:51.326+10:00I had to do a self-care plan today for one of my c...I had to do a self-care plan today for one of my courses. One of the things we had to do is identify problem areas for our self-care. Believe it or not I struggle with stoicism. Somewhere along the way I learned that it's not OK to be emotional. If you (meaning me) are a woman and are emotional, you have no hope of ever being taken seriously, and I don't like to be mocked. - which I experienced so much of for my emotional reactivity as an adolescent. So I learned that it's better just to stuff it down. Obviously, it's not, but it's taken me the remainder of my 43+ years to learn that. <br /><br />In my field, it's actually beneficial to be able to be calm in the face of trauma, and I value the skill in that way. But, it's also unhealthy, for sure. I suspect it will take another 43 years to unravel the habit, but I'm working on it...one thread at a time.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01067954787472463337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-12664561782167327652014-05-09T09:53:11.016+10:002014-05-09T09:53:11.016+10:00Yeah I saw that. Copy/paste can be a tricksy one.Yeah I saw that. Copy/paste can be a tricksy one.E.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525989951162501357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-46400961355488868512014-05-04T22:57:27.595+10:002014-05-04T22:57:27.595+10:00Haha how weird to read back my comment and see I&#...Haha how weird to read back my comment and see I've somehow inadvertently pasted in a link to something I'd copied earlier. Glad it wasn't anything horridlly incriminating :)Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-89461508944549226272014-05-04T15:15:49.241+10:002014-05-04T15:15:49.241+10:00Cool, thanks! :)Cool, thanks! :)Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-14872056766926334642014-05-04T14:45:58.008+10:002014-05-04T14:45:58.008+10:00Oh, free on Kindle from amazon: http://www.amazon....Oh, free on Kindle from amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Lilith-George-MacDonald/dp/1603862056/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1399178726&sr=8-1&keywords=lilithE.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525989951162501357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-25043592964629236222014-05-04T14:44:58.531+10:002014-05-04T14:44:58.531+10:00Do you know the Lilith myth (try saying that three...Do you know the Lilith myth (try saying that three times fast)? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lilith There's a quite wonderfully weird novel by George MacDonald called Lilith, with this story of her being Adam's first wife in mind - she kicks the proverbial. E.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525989951162501357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-20024391902172328842014-05-04T14:36:19.837+10:002014-05-04T14:36:19.837+10:00Yes, absolutely, the differences between Adam and ...Yes, absolutely, the differences between Adam and Eve thttp://blog.radiantlifecatalog.comhere are quite stark, aren't they? And they've been used as instruments of patriarchy ever since, unfortunately. <br /><br />I think we should rewrite the story of Eve being created first and see what happens. Haha, my next thought on the back of that one was that it would end up being some kind of mutual egalitarian creation, both at the same time :)Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-25123885121938446632014-05-03T15:08:30.709+10:002014-05-03T15:08:30.709+10:00(even if the story is mythical, I think it says a ...(even if the story is mythical, I think it says a LOT about these kinds of things.)E.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525989951162501357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-20025676487409248112014-05-03T15:07:14.497+10:002014-05-03T15:07:14.497+10:00I often wonder what would have happened if Eve had...I often wonder what would have happened if Eve had been created first...I also agree with your thoughts and wonder what that means 'success' look like. Lots of wonderings.E.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525989951162501357noreply@blogger.com