tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post1567578642832199520..comments2023-07-17T23:10:02.228+10:00Comments on Discombobula: The Stress and the Art of Saying NoSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-18711258656008029392009-09-09T14:30:48.291+10:002009-09-09T14:30:48.291+10:00there is great beauty in the two-year old, sassy a...there is great beauty in the two-year old, sassy as she/he might be who has the power to firmly say NO with all of their little being. it is a natural instinct that shows up before everyone teaches us how to be polite and put others first and say "yes, ma'am" when we really want to say "bugger off" or "i'm too tired." <br><br>i continue to learn to listen to those instincts. it's definitely a process. here's a post i did exactly one month ago:<br><br>http://diamondsintheskywithlucy.blogspot.com/2009/08/listening-to-two-year-old.html<br><br>take good care, suzy q!lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01479940262271959482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-82187261388299893142009-09-09T22:51:33.543+10:002009-09-09T22:51:33.543+10:00The n-word is one of the most important there is. ...The n-word is one of the most important there is. Unfortunately when I say it, it sometimes comes out as "maybe" or "sorry". Gaaarh!<br><br>I'm with lucy: bugger off is a great phrase! And lying down, screaming, and drumming your heels on the floor can't hurt!<br><br>Feel better.Tesshttp://www.anchormast.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-53571807413722916332009-09-11T00:44:53.306+10:002009-09-11T00:44:53.306+10:00I'm learning it. Some people are so insistent ...I'm learning it. Some people are so insistent and so persuasive, and they know EXACTLY what they are doing...I still struggle with that. Just yesterday something came up which I knew in my heart was a "no" but I found myself, after listening to this insistent person for 15 minutes, saying "let me think about it". It made me mad, but in this case I hate to let the person down as they are in a bind, and those are the situations that are hardest for me.Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01067954787472463337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4879615387850345622.post-28977890821684260202009-09-13T11:26:04.281+10:002009-09-13T11:26:04.281+10:00I'm so sorry I've taken so long to respond...I'm so sorry I've taken so long to respond to these comments (especially after that post I wrote a while ago about the rudeness of not responding to comments :) I've been feeling unwell lately so that's why :)<br><br>Lucy - the beauty of the sassy two year old. I agree!! Isn't it funny, though, how quick we are to laugh at it. I think of my cousin's little girl, who is as sassy as they come and TOTALLY reminds me of me, haha. Just the comments that surrounded that sort of behaviour were that she was a little witch, and those sorts of things, you know? Not intended to harm but still, laden with messages. Thanks for continuing to share your own journey Lucy, it's such an encouragement to me.<br><br>Tess - oh, yeah, the "sorry" that gets attached!! AAAAAAAGGGGHHHH. Me too! Very annoying. I guess that it is part of the struggle towards standing up and just saying no without any apology attached. At least you are aware of it. Yeah, bugger off is a good one :) Actually, I think people LOVE other people's boundaries. How safe does it feel being aroundother people who have well defined boundaries and who you know are gonna say no if they want? It's ... totally necessary, really :)<br><br>Erin - ahh, yes. People can be manipulative even without KNOWING, even without TRYING. Ahh, yeah, and I think you hit upon the MOST difficult and murky parts - when someone is in a bind. I HATE those situations because it's so hard to differentiate between when you should lay down your "no" for the other person, and when you shouldn't. I hope it's all being sorted out for you in this particular situation.Suehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01122659239039900398noreply@blogger.com